Thursday, July 21, 2011

How to ALWAYS get what you want: Establish your priorities



What are your top priorities in life? 
Which goals are you desperately trying to achieve?


Priority: A thing that is regarded as more 
important than another.


So many times I hear people complain.. 
"I never get what I want.. life just doesn't seem to go my way... If only I had XYZ then I'd be happy.."


Today I have this challenge for you:
1. Write down all of your wishes...
2. Narrow your list down to no more than 3-5 items... Only choose the things you currently consider essential to your happiness.
3. Now...here's the tricky part.. In order to get what you want you must prioritize your wishes over all of the other unessential things in life... 

I find that if you ask someone.. "what do you REALLY want?" most of the time people can come up with a couple of things right away.
However when you ask them: "well.. are you working towards achieving this? what are you doing to get it?" they don't know what to say or they come up with excuses for why they're not doing anything.

When you really want something, then you need to ask yourself:
what am I willing to do and give to get this?
Since we have limited time and resources, we unfortunately can't have or do everything at once... Therefore, we must choose what's really important and eliminate anything that might distract us from reaching our goals.
If you say you want something but then come up with excuses as to why you can't or don't have what you want, then you're taking away your own power. Whether or not you are aware of it, by using excuses you are prioritizing your fears over your dreams...

So take an honest look at your life and make a conscious attempt to define what matters. Be aware that sacrifices must be made...
End your excuses and concentrate on your dreams. Dare to go after what you want, have patience, be relentless... and remember that any major achievement is worth fighting for.

Daily Quote: Perfect Time


(Image taken from The Art of Audacity blog.)

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Daily LOL

Don't let your pain be your guide..



There are times when we seem to trick ourselves into believing that everything is "all right" but in reality we're just putting on a mask to hide our misery. We suppress our feelings, try to hide from ourselves, and refuse to acknowledge that we're hurt...


And then when we least expect it we start feeling the emptiness in our hearts. Negativity starts to take over our minds and we start spiraling down into a mild state of depression. Fear starts creeping in, clouding all of our thoughts...

I love the quote that says "Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional" because it reminds me that even though we sometimes can't escape adverse situations we can control our subsequent reactions. I've written this post in order to share the steps I usually take to get out of a really "bad funk" (a.k.a. negative state of mind). 


When things start looking dim and life doesn't seem to go your way here's what I recommend you do to brighten up your day... 

Take time to appreciate the small things... Stop your mental chatter for a second and look around you. Go outside, take a short walk and marvel at the beauty of nature. Look at the trees, the birds, the sky.. Feel the breeze in your face.. Take it all in and allow yourself to be a part of the miracle of life. Whatever you're going through shall pass. The Universe goes on in spite of our petty problems and worries.. So let your pain go and accept things as they are... Don't let your emotions cripple your outlook.


Become more spiritual. People that don't believe in a Higher Being and that think that there's nothing more to life than what we can readily see/hear/touch/experience are seriously limiting their personal growth. I believe the ultimate purpose of most spiritual practices is to nurture hope, emotional strength, and compassion. Trying to understand all of the mysteries of life without developing our spirituality seems a daunting and overwhelming task. There are always  questions that will be left unanswered.. there are situations we are just not going to be able to understand (no matter how hard we try).. Therefore, I believe that nurturing our spiritual side is crucial in order to remain positive and keep bitterness and resentment out of our hearts. 


Stop focusing on the negative. When something bad happens, we usually dwell on the negative effects of our misfortune for far too long. Instead of adopting a "victim" mentality I think we should always choose a "victor" mindset. Be grateful for the good things that are still present in your life. Think that you will come out stronger and wiser from this. Adding more negativity to your adversities is like adding dirt to an open wound... it will only make things worse.


During difficult times it's important to stay aware of your thoughts so that your mental stream doesn't poison your heart. As much as we like the illusion of stability and control we should learn and accept that everything in life is impermanent. Change is inevitable, and when it happens we must know how to adjust our life accordingly and establish some new goals. You should never suppress your pain, but you also shouldn't allow it to be the prevailing force that guides you. Assess your situation, accept the impermanent nature of your experiences and soon you'll be able to recognize the valuable lessons the Universe wants to reveal..

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

From caterpillar to butterfly: Letting yourself grow

A couple of hours ago I saw the following quote posted in my Twitter feed:

"If you begin to understand what you are without trying to change it, then what you are undergoes a transformation." - Krishnamurti 


As soon as I read this I knew this was one of those messages that God randomly sends to help me expand my understanding. This quote reminded me of my happiness symbol: the butterfly. I read a book once that said that we should all choose a "happiness symbol" (it could be a simple object or animal that we have always liked or felt drawn to) so that when we forget about our natural state of peace and happiness the Universe can show us our symbol and remind us of its infinite Love and Wisdom.

I never really stopped to analyze the nature of my happiness symbol until I read this quote today. Butterflies are not born.. they are made. Before turning into a butterfly the little ugly caterpillar is on a destructive binge, eating every leaf and destroying every plant in its path. Finally, after it eats and eats for days it starts to work on its cocoon until it covers itself completely. Once it's safely wrapped inside its cocoon it stays isolated for days until it develops into a beautiful butterfly...



Notice how the caterpillar never questions its behavior or lets itself be crippled by guilt. Although its actions are incredibly destructive to the plant that hosts it, the caterpillar just lets itself follow the natural order of things. Fairness and balance are restored as soon as the caterpillar becomes a butterfly because the butterfly will then employ most of its time pollinating all of the flowers around it...

LESSONS TO BE LEARNED FROM METAMORPHOSIS

Oftentimes we go through very destructive "caterpillar" stages in our lives where our selfish actions may hurt other people. However, once we make the conscious choice to change we should be able to let go of our guilt and forgive. Like the caterpillar, we may need some time to reflect in solitude, learn how to adjust our pattern of behavior, and ultimately change our ways...
Keep in mind that we can't live freely and spread our blessings if we're still beating ourselves up about our past mistakes. It's important to make amends if you can, but if you can't, then ask the Universe for forgiveness, ask YOURSELF for forgiveness and let go... Only then will you be able to release the true beauty of your Spirit and develop into the amazing being you were born to be...

What are dreams made of?

I keep having all of these weird dreams...


Last night I had a dream I met up with a gypsy and she wanted to read my hand/palm and tell me my fortune (yeah I know.. my subconscious comes up with very original stuff..) The dialogue between me and her went something like this:

Dream Gypsy: Oh... you never show what you want or what you really need.. that's not good.. Also, I see you care for too many people but not all of them care for you...
Me: Okayy... that's nice, now tell me something I DON'T know... something a bit less depressing please..
Dream Gypsy: Oh.. you're going to have LOTS of kids!!
Me: What?
Dream Gypsy: Many kids!!
Me: Uhh.. so when you say many you mean.. two kids right?
Dream Gypsy: Oh no! many more!
Me: You lie!!
Dream Gypsy: How dare you! I never lie! You'll have many kids and sing them this song: ::dream gypsy starts singing a Cuban nursery song I hadn't heard since I was about 4 years old::
-DREAM ENDS-

I'm usually very good at remembering my dreams.. I think some of them are amusing, others warn me of things to come, and others are just plain weird and scary. For a while I was having vivid dreams pretty consistently. Those were my favorite... Imagine living with NO FEAR.. That's what a vivid dream feels like. You experience everything with excitement and awe without having any preconceived expectations. Whenever I had a vivid dream I gave up all sense of control and was happy to just let things happen.

I believe some dreams are useful at making us confront our hidden desires and emotions. These types of  dreams can show us what area of our lives we're currently stressing about. Then it's up to us to deal with that situation in real life or continue suppressing it...
Then there are dreams like the one I had last night... absolutely ridiculous and hilarious.. but still useful nonetheless. It helped me to laugh at myself and realize that sometimes too much of a good thing makes that thing not sound so good anymore...

I am thankful for all of my dreams... I'm so used to remembering them that if some day I had to live without them, I feel like my nights would be more dull than sitting at the DMV waiting for a license renewal...

Daily Quote: Give love


Saturday, July 9, 2011

Daily LOL

Failed my patience test today...

I believe everyday we’re presented with an opportunity for growth. Sometimes these opportunities are pleasant experiences, but then some days our character is tested through annoyances and small trials..

Today I went to the clinic with my mother so that she could get a drug test for a new job she’s applying for. As soon as we got there my little “sixth sense” trigger warned me I was about to have a bad experience. I disregarded it and attributed my discomfort to the fact that I’ve never like hospitals/clinics… every time I go to one I get a knot in my stomach. Anyways, back to the story…

We walked up to the reception desk and there was a young woman (probably in her late 20s/early 30s) with a very annoyed look on her face. We greeted her.. and she just looked at us and said: “What do you guys want..??” I disregared her rude demeanor, handed her the drug-test forms, and explained our reason for being there. She looked at the papers for 5 seconds, handed them back and said: “You were supposed to come within 24 hours from the date posted on this form.. We can’t do the test. You need to come back with another form.” She then proceeded to going back to looking at the computer screen in front of her without any further explanation.. \(>-<)/

Now, I had just driven for almost an hour to get to this place and was being rudely dismissed without a logical explanation.. So yeah, I allowed myself to get extremely upset at her behavior...

For the past five years I’ve had jobs where I’ve helped clients and  customers so I know that it can get emotionally draining dealing with people all the time.. but if you’re in charge of assisting someone then it’s YOUR JOB to provide the best service and deliver the best attitude AT ALL TIMES…

I asked her to explain the policy and tell us if there was any way we could remedy the situation. She repeated the same thing in a louder tone: “No, you need to talk to the company and come back with another form..!” So what did I do? I asked to speak to her supervisor. She said: “Come back Monday then..” After this, I finally lost it and we went back and forth raising our voices at each other until another employee intervened…



LESSON OF THE DAY: You know how they say we’re genetically wired in situations of danger and tension with the “fight or flight” reflex? Well if I would have lived during Prehistoric times I would have definitely been in the hunter/fighter group… but since we don’t really have to hunt and kill mammouths anymore, I guess I have to work on my patience…

Today I was reminded that I have a very short fuse when it comes to rude and inconsiderate people. Therefore, I need to learn how to control my anger and overall demeanor when these types of situations arise. Of course, it’s always easy to be nice to nice people… no big challenge there… but more often than not we encounter frustrated individuals that lash out their pain and negativity to everyone around them. It's obvious that when this happens I need to learn how to stay in control of my emotions and not let their negative energy affect me..

So I plan to dedicate some time this week to doing some extra meditation and reading some anger-management material. Here’s hoping that next time I’ll be able to handle things the right way… ::crosses fingers::

Friday, July 8, 2011

To the man who broke my heart



I wish healing a wounded heart was as easy as putting on a band-aid...

It's never good to love someone so much that you lose yourself in the process...
It's even worse to give your love to someone that never took the time to care...

I have a lot of hurt regarding you and I have a lot of anger towards myself. I knew we could never be right from the start. I knew this story would not have a happy ending. Yet I didn't listen to common sense and allowed myself to be guided by blind hope...

Was I foolish? Perhaps... but I have no regrets..
Because unlike you, I wasn't afraid.. I never feared love. Even as you were tearing my heart to pieces I refused to feel ashamed of this feeling...
Why? I guess you'd have to love someone to understand...
How can I explain love to someone that always wants to stay safe and in control? How can I explain such a Divine emotion to someone that refuses to talk about what he feels?

You were not the right guy for me and I'm clearly not the girl for you. I completely understand that. Now, I just need to teach my heart to accept it and let the hurt go...

I look forward to the day I can think of you with a peaceful mind and a genuine smile on my face..

Karma Bank: Attempting to rescue a bamboo plant


Poor little plant... her owner bought her and abandoned her (yes, I have officially categorized "it" as a she...I don't really know why but it just sounds right to me.. ) 

I found her at my job in a dark little corner among dusty binders and broken computer parts. God only knows for how long she went without light and water...

I instantly saw her growth potential and I felt the need to save her. I gave her lots of water and took her home with me. Hopefully she'll get some sun and recover soon.. 

Daily LOL


TGIF!!!